Visible or Vulnerable?

 

I’ve written a lot about visibility – in fact my second book, Strategies for Being Visible: 14 Profile-Raising Ideas for Emerging Female Leaders, I provide a detailed plan for how to raise your profile in a way that doesn’t involve you standing on tables and shouting ‘looking at me’. In fact, if you’re an introvert, it’s a plan that you may well benefit from!

Visibility brings vulnerability with it, and I’ve found this to be one of the biggest barriers to people taking the plunge and working on being seen and heard more. Learning to manage those feelings of vulnerability can make all the difference between thinking about being more visible and actually doing something about it.

Those moths may appear from friends, family, colleagues or social media

In my book, one of the first things I talk about is understanding and nurturing your network. One of the reasons for building a great network – apart from having the right people around you to be visible with  – is that it can also help you to strengthen yourself in the face of vulnerability.

Here are 7 ideas for using your network to help you cope with the moths that might flock to your flame – don’t extinguish your flame but learn how to protect and feed it so it burns even more brightly!

1. Surround yourself with people who’ve been where you are and be inspired by their experience. Watch, listen and learn how they have coped when they’ve dealt with moths, and if you’re in a position to, ask them for their best advice or tips to help.

2. Ground yourself with those who have your best interests at heart and want to see you succeed.

3. Choose at least one person who you trust to be completely honest with you, who hold up that mirror to help you see the truth.

4. Prune those connections who leave you feeling diminished by their very presence – get rid of the committee, which I’ve written about here.

5. Talk to others when you have those wobbly moments.

6. Pay attention to the opinions of the right people – ‘it’s not the critic who counts’. I’d recommend reading rising Strong by Brene Brown.

7. Stay in your lane and focus on the road ahead.

DO THE SAME FOR OTHERS

Nurture those closest to you by being thoughtful and having their backs.

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Susan Ritchie sepcialises in helping emerging leaders to make their presence felt and create more impactI’m Susan Ritchie, an author, leadership and executive coach and trainer. My second book, Strategies for Being Visible: 14 Profile-Raising Ideas for Emerging Female Leaders is now available as a paperback, an audiobook and for the Kindle reader.

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