When things get a little rocky, which let’s face it, happens with a certain regularity for most of us, I’ve found it helpful to remind myself of these 4 Cs, and how important each of them is in our journey forwards. When we develop self-leadership, they’re vital components. They are ideas which have formed the foundations of my life for some years now, stretching right back to my move overseas in 2002.
Here are 4 ideas that you can apply to your own life, whatever your circumstances, both personally and professionally. Getting these right will help you to show up with more presence and impact.
When I moved overseas as a single mum with my then 9-year old son, what had seemed like a great idea to begin with, soon became the biggest lesson in positive thinking I’d ever had . Getting off the plane in Brunei, on the island of Borneo in the South China Sea, into a culture that felt completely unfamiliar, thousands of miles away from friends and family, with just myself, my son and four suitcases, suddenly began to hit home.
For the first 6 weeks, I lived out of my suitcase on my bedroom floor, telling myself that if I needed to, I could have us back at the airport in a flash and head back to the UK.
It was the enormous commitment I’d made to our move which kept me going daily. At the end of every day, I’d consciously look for evidence that it was worth staying – and happily I found enough to keep me there. Reminding myself of that commitment was one of the things that helped me to stay afloat during those first choppy weeks.
If you don’t commit to the outcome, you’ll have a hard time committing to the process of whatever it is that you’re going through. Keep your end goal in sight.
I’ve written about commitment before, in this post Why Can’t it be You? The quote I share from Oprah’s book is an excellent example of how unseen forces come to our aid when we fully commit to a cause. And while we’re talking, read the article and digest it – why can’t you learn to change how you show up so that you demonstrate there’s more to you than meets the eye? Why can’t you learn, develop, grow, change?
Even when you can’t see immediate results, showing up and keeping going, refusing to be discouraged (and find help and support if you do) and being resilient, are key tools and approaches in playing the longer game. Most things take longer than you think. Going back into the ring, day after day, and recognising our achievements, changes us and how those around us see us.
I want you to hear this – you are capable of more than you think, much, much more. Courage gets you started on your journey. Courage keeps you going when you leave that comfort zone and courage helps you to achieve more than most people ever will. Trust me. I’ve helped enough clients to develop this quality in themselves on Leadership Day Retreat packages and the end result is a pretty impressive leader, with lifelong skills for building their own careers and the results of their organisations.
I think there’s a cruel irony to life in that in order to gain confidence, we have to do the very things we fear. Confidence is a muscle that builds with use and learning to demonstrate it is a by-product of being committed, consistent and courageous.
I’m Susan Ritchie and I help aspiring C-suite executives to position themselves for seniority. I’ve worked with hundreds of leaders with feelings of self-doubt, frustration and a reluctance to shine, and I’ve helped them to access that leader within. The result? Self-assured, happy high status, visible executives ready to share their message with the world. They’re secure in who they are and what they have to offer – confident, articulate, calm and poised.
One way I do this is with a Leadership Day Retreat programme.
Part 1 is a full day spent with me here in Lincoln, where we unpack everything that’s helping you or hindering you, we explore it, and make a focused plan for moving forward with the tools, techniques and strategies to help.
Part 2 is the implementation phase. I support you for three months as you put everything into practice.
If this interests you, get in touch and let’s chat. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org