Don’t You Know Who I Am? The Question Every Leader Needs To ask

Dont You Know Who I Am

The subject of identity has been on my mind over the last week or so.

We’ve been watching A Game of Thrones – another character from it is Deanerys Targaryen, a woman who has grown in stature and confidence over the course of the series. When she introduces herself, she uses her full title – which is several soundbites long and I won’t trouble you with it it, but the point is, when she announces herself, you can feel the weight of her somehow.

She knows who she is – she understands her identity and the impact of it, and knowing that, feels empowered to take on the world (more or less!). It doesn’t mean that she knows everything, or doesn’t make mistakes, but rather that she shows up as the version of herself that she is at that moment. 

Bold, confident, fearless.

She’s changed over the series, of course she has. But what has really struck me is that at each step along the journey, she’s known who she is at that moment in time, and accepts that, and uses it to her advantage.

So, dear reader, ‘don’t you know who I am?’, is a question you’d do well to be able to answer about yourself. Who are you right now, at this moment in time?

How well do you understand your talents, values and strengths? How do others perceive you? What reputation do you have and is it one you’re happy with? What one thing do you need to change in order to grow and develop?

What kind of leader are you becoming? And how do you want to develop?

Understanding yourself is the first job of a leader – self-awareness breeds many things, and with the confidence to accept yourself, weaknesses and all, comes great strength. Understanding your leadership identity allows you to build confidence and self-belief.

This, in turn, changes how you show up in front of others, and allows you to demonstrate credibility and gravitas.

It’s at this point that others will begin to sit up and listen to you. And that’s when your career will begin to blossom and move in the direction you want it to.

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one_to_one_coachingI’m Susan Ritchie, an author, leadership and executive coach and trainer. My second book, Strategies for Being Visible: 14 Profile-Raising Ideas for Emerging Female Leaders is now available as a paperback, an audiobook and for the Kindle reader.